Checklist of Behaviors

Do you or have you

Yes

No

Bossed your partner around

 

 

Pouted or denied affection (i.e., silent treatment) to your partner

 

 

Checked up on them (listened to phone calls, called them often at work, followed them)

 

 

Stormed out in the middle of an argument

 

 

Insulted your partner

 

 

Often interrupted partner while talking

 

 

Accused your partner of flirting or cheating on you

 

 

Acted jealous or suspicious of your partner’s friends

 

 

Blamed your partner for your problems

 

 

Made negative comments on how your partner dresses

 

 

Made negative comments about your partner’s body

 

 

Kept or attempted to keep your partner from leaving

 

 

Yelled or screamed at your partner

 

 

Treated your partner like a personal servant

 

 

Spit at, or pulled your partner’s hair

 

 

Slapped your partner

 

 

Made it difficult for your partner to socialize with friends

 

 

Told your partner she/he was crazy

 

 

Pushed, grabbed, shoved or threw your partner

 

 

Hit your partner with something

 

 

Pulled or tore off your partner’s clothes

 

 

Drove fast to scare your partner

 

 

Threw, hit or destroyed property

 

 

Bit or scratched your partner

 

 

Forced your partner to do something she or he didn’t want to do

 

 

Punched your partner with your fist

 

 

Kicked your partner

 

 

Choked or strangled your partner

 

 

Used or threatened your partner with a weapon

 

 

Physically forced your partner to have sex

 

 

Begged partner for sex and wouldn’t stop until partner agreed

 

 

Physically harmed pets

 

 

Threatened to hit your partner or throw something at him or her

 

 

Said things to scare him or her (something “bad” would happen, threatened to commit suicide)

 

 

Anything that hasn’t been mentioned

 

 

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